Bringing Our Elders And Youth Back Together

0:00 Cousins and kind of folks, cousins and kend folks. Welcome, Welcome, Welcome, Welcome, Welcome back to the nest episode of your favorite podcast, That Mine, Curly and the Construction. You already know who it is. Thank you so much for joining us today. I know it's been a minute. It's been a good long minute. We had a very lengthy hiatus. Step was like the seen It was stepped on late, much much needed. So we're glad to be back with you all. I missed you. I know you. I know y'all missed me because I missed you all too. I missed twalking mints. It's nothing like sitting down having a great conversation with my family. You all know you my family, y'all know this. Man.

0:43 It's just so good to be back in the saddle. It's good to be back on the microphone. It's good to be here with you all. Before I get into it, craziest stay happen to be today, I just have to share with your craziest thing happened to me to day. So, uh, my oldest daughter, who is her father's child, she truly is. She got jokes and I mean she got jokes. To the utmost cousins of kid of folks. She took it upon herself too, with the joke along with it, sign your boy up for a ARP and visit A little miss would to say, Okay, Dad, it's official. Now you are old. Really really Alicia, Alicia Roche Hubbard. Really, But you know what, that's okay because because guess what, your buggle put those benefits to use, you know, all the stuff that you could get through a ARP.

1:57 Really, I had had a chance to look to sit down and look at everything just yet. But just the fact that she even went as far as to doing it. But I love her forward, I love her dearly. I love her dearly. So I know you're listening, Bennie. You got that. You got that. You better not be trying to send me in a rocking chair, either you or one of the or your sisters or my son in law trying to send me no rocking chair. What am I doing with a rocking chair? Man? That is hilarious. But I gotta love you. Babies when they love you like that and they love on you like that and they just want to make sure that you're okay, you let them do that. Okay, You becausins of kin. Folks, when you have a relationship with your children that's to that particular level, it's what you want, it's your LISU. And I'm grateful to the most high for the relationship that I have with my children. I haven't always been the best for dad, Um, I haven't always been that present dad in their lives, but I've been there the best that I could for the period that I was.

3:20 But over the years that relationship has gotten much better. We're in a very good place right now, and I'm grateful for the relationship with my children. My daughters, they all know their dad loves them more than I could ever put into words, and I'm truly grateful for them. So, Um, cousins and king folks, what I what I want you to do is, um, don't give up on your babies. You hear me, don't give up on your babies. They're there, they need you, They meet you in the worst way possible if you whether you know what you don't you or who do you look to, whether they admit it or not. So don't give up on them. Just don't don't end up being like some that the relationship it's splintered and wait until you are gone or one of them are gone, and then now it's too late, because we never know when the when the Most High is going to tell us a lot that they're gonna tap us on the shoulder and say, hey, come onto the upper room, sound to go. We never know when that they may be, So don't

4:51 wait or don't sit there and feel like, well, hey, I got time to fix this, I got time to put this together because we never know when. We never know, So continue to love on your babies, continue to cultivate your relationships with them, continue to do whatever you can if to ensure that you have that relationship with them, and you give them their flowers so they can give you their flowers so you can continue to pour into them. You feel me, that wasn't how where I was. I was looking to God, cousins and ken folks. I was actually looking to go into a topic today. It's something a conversation I had with um a friend recently, and we were talking about elderly people. We're talking about our elders, our elders that are still here and our elders that are not. And over the last several generations respect the admiration and the role of our elders has diminished, has changed, has converted, And I don't think it's dead.

6:21 I dare not say that, but that's something that I feel that needs to be talked about. It needs to be discussed, and the place that it definitely needs to start at is in the home in our community. Because you see, when I was coming up, your elders garnered respect. I loved me personally. I loved being around older people. Not that I was trying to get in grown folks business. That wasn't the thing. I enjoy being around older people to learn because once I get to the age and I realize, you know, the things that they've seen and the wisdom that they can impart on me, then I begin to do things to pick their brains because I'm just looking at the fact that hey, they've been here, they've been my age, they know some of what I'm going through or what I'm dealing with, maybe not the exact thing, but something very similar, and they can give me some advice or something that I can do to help me along in this. But see, at some point that has shifted to the point

7:57 that our elders are not getting the respect that they deserve. Our younger people are being very disrespectful toward our elders, and that's disturbing to me. Again, that starts at home and that starts in the community. Now, it's not saying that our elders know everything, or that a lot of some of our elders do. They can't be seen or deemed as being wrong because they're human. They're human, so they're still fallible. No one's infallible, no one is above reproach when it comes to making mistakes. So even our elders are capable of making miss stakes. But I'm pretty sure they've gotten more right than they have wrong. I'm pretty sure of that. I can be considered depending on how old you are, or according to my children who are always telling me, I'm ancient and I'm pretty a story. I can sort of

9:30 sort of be putting that that that that category, but not just it. I'm sort of a I'm sort of an in between right now. Not that I don't consider myself an elder just yet, but I may be an elder to some people. And that's why I always try to do right by people the best I can. And that's why, you know, talking to younger people and helping them to them. That's a that's a huge thing for me. That's a huge part of who I am. That's why I'm a huge advocate for you know, talking to teens that try to help them to steer clear of that path that could lead to so many ways of danger, because that's a path that I had been on myself. Again, I'm not perfect, I'm far from that I've made. I probably have gotten more wrong in my life than i've gotten right. Yeah, you heard your you heard your cousin. Right. I've probably gotten more wrong than I've gotten my life right.

10:52 But I've gotten a whole lot right. Especially in recent I definitely have been my path getting a whole lot of things in my life right. So we need to get back to listening to our elders, giving them the respect that they're due. I've looked at some posts recently, in some articles, some on social media that and I'm listening to with some of these young people talk and they think, and I'm just like, like, really, example the situation and I'm pretty sure a lot of you have seen this, and if you haven't seen it, you've heard about it. A situation with most recent teacher now there have been a lot of things going on. Situations going on with students attacking teachers and things of their particular she or just the situation is becoming violent. There have been a lot of those happening recently, but I'm talking about this most recent one that had a lot of people in an uproar from both sides. I'm saying it's a generational thing. Some I'm saying that it shouldn't have happened. Or the teacher put her hands on a girl

12:22 first, so she had a right to swing on their teacher. No, Now, I know what I'm about to say is probably and I'm popular opinion. This is what I believe. This is my belief the way I think. But I'm gonna say this and then I'm gonna come back to my point. If you are a child and you put yourself into an adult situation, I'm going to do everything I can't diffuse it, talk to you like a person, and do my bestead of diffuse. But if you continue on and again put yourself in a those situations and make an executive decision to put your hands on me, then in term, you're going to get what you asked for. I'm not a violent person. I'm not a violent person in any shape form of fashion. Y'all know that I said that. To come back to that is, we still don't know all of the details of what was going on in that classroom. I saw a lot of different conflicting situations and stories or whatever. But whatever the reason was that this teacher took this child's phone, first of all, you're in class. You shouldn't be at school.

13:50 You shouldn't be having it anyway. You shouldn't have your phone out. Put your phone up until you get out of school, or until you go to lunch between classes, whatever the case may be, to phone up, you know, but to be cussing this teacher out the way that this this grown person out, the way that you were doing. And to that point, yes, she had your phone. And I saw a lot of of comments saying, well, she should have just put it on, put the phone on the desk and walked off, of some saying that well she should have just called a resource off. So well, from what I understand, that was done already, and this little girl was already being disrespectful in a class anyway, and it just went further than that. Now, I hate the whole situation happened because no adults should be put in a position to make themselves feel like they had to defend themselves. But I see how a lot of these these students and these kids act, and my opinion, once again, her classmates was more worried about filming it so they can go viral versus hey, look, going to get their classmate. Hey, look, come on, you know, chill out, stop dead, chill out. Just wait to have the class and get your phone back then, or she's gonna

15:22 call you. Oh, let's look, come on, let's let's go out here. Let's call your mom so your mom can come up here and get your phone. If these were her real friends, that's what was going to happen. But it seemed more so like she wanted to put on a show and they were there for the show. That has to stop. People, That has to stop. Cousins and king folks. We are losing our children and they're supposed to be our future. Period they're supposed to be. But again it goes back to lack of respect for the elders. Now, I'm not saying everything went right in that situation, because there are things that I see that could may have been done on both ends, but at the end of the day that teachers shouldn't have had to come to the point of fighting a student who took it upon themselves to want to call her all out of her name and then swing on her, and it seacher had to defend themselves.

16:32 That shouldn't happen. That shouldn't happen. And again things like this started home. I'm popular opinion. I'm probably going to get some flak for this, but that's okay. I can take it. But that's how I feel. We have to get back to show in respect and the first place that the children should be able to and our younger generations should be able to show respect to themselves themselves. A lot act like this because they have no respect for themselves. It has to start with them. How can I show respect to somebody if I have no respect for myself, So it has to start with me. The old saying goals respect is earned and not given. In order for me to earn or give anybody my respect, I have to be able to respect myself. So for all my younger cousins and Kenny folks that

18:04 are listening right now, you have to respect yourself. You have to be able to respect yourself, love yourself enough to respect you. You have so many advantages. God has given you so many advantages, and you have all of your given faculties. Use them. But it starts with you. Younger cousins and kin folks, parents and elders. We have to help them because again we are losing our children. We are losing them and it goes back to them not having respect for themselves or they're elders in the community. Elders.

19:04 We have to do better in loving own of our own, loving on our younger cousins and king folks. You gotta gotta do better in loving on our nieces and nephews. We have to do better. We have to do better in leading by example, because a lot of times what they do, especially at a very young age, they mimic what they see and they see us, and if they see us at a young age run around saying that, well, we don't give a dang about this, and we don't give a thing about that, and I you this and that and all of the other foolishness. Guess what, they're gonna have that same mentality, why, because they've seen us do that. It's a circle, and we have to break that circle. Man the times out of his rough cousins and kidding folks, it's rough out here. The stuff that I see daily exists. It blows my mind, but at the same time it hurts my heart. In the last few days, and not that I look to see it, I've

20:37 seen a couple of different murders in my hometown, in my second home, senseless killings, and these were young people. These are young people haven't even had a chance to live their life, have had a chance to really true to experience life. My children laugh at me and they call me old, But guess what that is one of my prayers that God allows me to be to grow old. A lot of our children aren't getting the opportunity to do that old as we got. We we got to step up. We have to help. We have to find a way to get through to our younger cousins and ken folks and nieces and nephews. We have to find a way.

21:53 And we just can't say, oh, but I'm just gonna wait on the Lord. No, we have to be able to put into work and do ours out. We can go to God with it in prayer, true enough and ask him to help us find a way and ask him to help sumplement us or or the our steps to be able to do so. But in the event, if we want him to move on our the ass, we have to do the work. We got to do the work. We got to get out there and do it. We have to try. We got to try, cousins and kN folks, or if answer butts about it, we have to try. We have to do our parts. We have to do our parts. And I know we can. I know we can, and I know we will. So cousins and ken and folks, help me. Help you help our younger cousins and ken and folks and nieces and nephews so we can grow to become a better community. We can do this.

23:23 We have to do this, my younger cousins and kin folks and my nieces and nephews. Listen to your elders. If that elder is trying to do something or give you a bit of advice that could benefit you, listen because they've been there, they've been your age. They may if they've been through some of what you're going through. You never know who that elder may know or what they can do to help you, or who they may know to connect you with. I had a lot of wonderful older people in my life who connected me with others who poured into me, who advice that they gave me, or things that they showed me. I remember clearly. I still hold dear too, and they are part of who I am. Pop Taylor, one of the wisest older man I've ever known. He told me something one time. I didn't get to quite get the meaning of it right now, but I understand it clearly now. I used to tell me y'all

24:56 the time, son, if you remember nothing else, so I said, remember this, never let your right hand see what your left hand is doing. And I'm like my Papa don't know, I don't. I have to use them together. Think about that, my younger cousins and king folks. If you don't know what that is, or if you've ever heard that before, or if you've ever heard one of your uncles, your dad, grandpa say something like that, or if you think they may know, go ask them, Go ask them what that means. And I guarantee you it's something you'll never forget when you get older. Cousins, kin folks, I'd have healed. Y'all evels long enough, but I'm just so glad to be back in with you all. Listen, we are in our third year here, currently under construction, and I know you all told me from the last broadcast and our actual birthday has passed. But what I'm going to do is for the month of May, for the month of May, I'm going to give not one, but two giveaways for our third year here are currently under construction.

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